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So when it comes to this “Ex-LGBT Conversation,” I see how it paints itself as a healthy dialogue. But the truth of the matter is it’s an echo chamber for people with the same bigoted views. It’s a way to affirm to themselves that homosexuality really is a sin and should be corrected. Freedom March Hits DC as ex-LGBT People Testify of the Holy Spirit's Power to Set Them Free. Pulse Nightclub Survivor to CBN News: 'It Wasn't a Gay to Straight Thing. It Was a Lost to Saved Thing' “I feel ‘regret’ and ‘detransitioning’ will become the next transgender frontier,” said Heyer. “So be prepared.” “There is an ever-increasing number of former transgenders, like ... Barrage of vitriol against the Ex-LGBT group. As if to underscore Johnson’s point, the Freedom Marchers were subjected to invective from the pro-LGBT world. Ex-LGBT men, women to share stories of transformation at 2nd Freedom March in Washington, DC. By Brandon Showalter, CP Reporter Follow Wednesday, May 22, 2019. Facebook Twitter Email Print Img No-img Menu Whatsapp Google Reddit Digg Stumbleupon Linkedin Comment. All the testimonies are anonymous, such was the pressure at that time, a pressure that still exists although there are a lot more people now coming out as ex-LGBT and they are much more vocal because they are tired of being denied a voice. The booklet is available as a PDF here. Butterfield avoids the rhetorical triggers of ex-gay Christianity’s earlier iteration. But she presents a message that will ring familiar to the many LGBTQ people who have survived ex-gay ... An ex LGBT lady has taken to social media to speak against same sex relationships. The individual appeared to have become born again said it is irritating to see Christians who are homosexuals. Free subscription Get the hottest stories from the largest news site in Nigeria. Freedom March Hits DC as ex-LGBT People Testify of the Holy Spirit's Power to Set Them Free 'Jesus Can Change Anyone': These Ex-LGBTQ People Are Bringing a Freedom March of Hope to L.A. Testimony/Stories Of Ex-Lesbians, Gays, Bisexual And Transgender (Ex-LGBT) Who Are Now In Christ Jesus “I thank God for this Freedom March. I thank God for what he is doing in our nation’s capital. As a combat veteran of 15 years in the United States Army, today I go to war with you guys,” said Ruiz pointing to the crowd.

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2020.09.25 07:13 Abitofeverything24 I’m sure everyone says their dream is weird

So I’m single 🤷🏻‍♂️ which is why this is so weird. All I can remember is going to a nerd bar, the nerdiest of nerds were there, there were marvel themed quizzes and it was LGBT friendly and just seemed like a great safe place for nerds of all kinds. Sorta like a cool cheers and I’ve never even seen the show lol. I don’t remember everything but then it changed to a different place, I saw my exes brother there and that was awkward because HIS ex actually wanted to get with me, I saw the girl I’ve been crushing on for a year there with HER ex and they were happy and I was actually happy and over it. Then I ran into someone I apparently knew who remembered me. She gave me a tackle hug and was so hyped to see me. I couldn’t remember her for the life of me but she laughed at everything I said in the sweetest way and I couldn’t remember who this gorgeous punk rock woman was. I tried so hard and she called me out on it but wasn’t mad, she just let me figure it out. At that point the dream turned into a phone screen scene and I could see who she was but not her NAME. My dream went through YEARS of posts but I couldn’t see her name. The entire time I could hear her voice being so supportive and sweet and I couldn’t remember her. Finally like the greatest of all epiphanies it hit me so hard. Sophie. I don’t even KNOW a Sophie irl but when I woke up she was all I knew I wanted.
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2020.09.25 06:13 thesebreezycolors Anti-LGBT MIL won’t take pics with me and my daughter

No copying allowed. My (36F) JNMIL is a 77-year-old passive aggressive southern Baptist whose hobbies include unhealthy co-dependence on partners, guilt tripping SO (46F), complaining when family avoid her events, negativity, and licking the Bible to keep the bitterness flavor fresh in her mouth.
BACKSTORY
Here’s where you can skip down to “To the point of the post” if you want. JNMIL is anti everything including anti drinking, anti tattoo, anti divorce (although had one), anti sex before marriage (did that too, but covered it up until SO discovered SIL’s birth certificate), and of course anti LGBT. JNMIL’s water broke while at Wednesday church service the night SO was born. SO attended this same church twice a week eventually growing up to be a Bible study teacher. This is the same church whose members turned their backs on SO 30 years later when she came out of the closet finally ready to live her truth. Although the congregation were people she’d known all her life and made up her entire community and social circle, not a one would speak to SO after coming out of the closet when they crossed paths in their very small town. SO was crushed so hard by this it squeezed the notion of God right out of her. JNMIL continued to attend the church. She wrote SO a 4 page letter in which she emphasized 4 times SO will burn in hell for her lesbianism.
SO’s dad was a raging alcoholic whose hobbies included working no more than a few weeks a year, cheating on JNMIL, refinancing the house to buy boats and four-wheelers, and fishing for turtles so the family could have dinner to eat that night. When he walked out on the family, JNMIL immediately found a replacement man to dominate her life and tell her what to do. She was never a good mom. Her focus is and always will be “whatever hubby wants, hubby gets” with zero fucks considered for her children. She has no backbone. She was and still is very good at sweeping problems under the rug. Casual conversation about paint colors and spring flings are allowed. Hard discussions and expressing emotions and feelings are not ever allowed.
SO somehow emerged out of all that mess with a golden heart and warm soul. She truly embodies the type of kindness you find in those hippy, nature-loving, foster-the-kittens, organize-school-supply-drives, deliver-groceries-to-the-elderly types. She’s a great mom, adopting my daughter when she was 3 and folding her right in to her life like she was always meant to be there.
TO THE POINT OF THE POST
We’ve been together 8 years, married right after the US Supreme Court legalized samesex marriage in 2015. Surprisingly, JNMIL attended the wedding even though JNFIL refused. He wouldn’t even drive her nor pick her up. We printed and framed extra copies of our wedding pictures for her with her and us and our three daughters. That was when I first noticed she only put out the one with her, SIL and SO on her wall of family photos. It was a beautiful photo. Every member of the entire family is represented there. I shook it off because I was still impressed that she came and glad she put one out documenting the day. I wasn’t even bothered that she still (to this day) has family photos up of SO with her ex-husband because that’s my daughters’ (step daughters, but I hate that term as it just does not encompass the depth of our relationship) dad. There’s history there; history that does not erase just because I’m the new SO.
Fast forward to our oldest’s high school senior year. All year long and at each life event like prom, last theater performance, graduation, etc. JNMIL would gather up SO’s two birth daughters for pictures with her. She demanded to get a picture of herself with SO and her ex-husband/birth daughters’ dad. My birth daughter (mentioned in backstory, SO raised) was 9 years old at the time and didn’t notice JNMIL gently booting her out of the pictures. My kid just assumed she’d be in it as well with her sisters and grandma. My kid knows nothing but love and acceptance. In her head, why wouldn’t she be included? But I noticed every single time. Less important to me was that she didn’t want pictures with me either. I did not raise the Hell JNMIL fears to Earth’s surface as I didn’t want to ruin our oldest’s moments. I DID bring it up to SO many times. She promised to address it.
Every year I mail JNMIL a copy of my birth daughter’s annual school photo with a homemade card designed and signed by my daughter.
In a little over a month, it will be the five year anniversary of the first time I realized my kid and I are missing from photos in JNMIL’s house and never ever taken on her phone. This behavior has continued as recently as two weeks ago at SO’s niece’s wedding. My kid is 11 now, and one day will notice too.
My SO’s response when I recently reminded her about the photos was that she’s finally accepted that her mom is never going to respect her blended family because we are going to hell. Fine, but bitch better not hurt our kid’s feelings. Talk about flinging open closet doors. I’d dig out every skeleton and dance circles around her with them. I was raised to be loud, opinionated, open and honest. Knowing this about me, SO promised she would immediately address the situation in regards to our daughter’s photos. She asked not to have the conversation with SO about pictures with me. Acceptable compromise? I’m semi-okay with that.
TL;DR: JNMIL is embarrassed and ashamed of me (36F) and my child (11F) so will not take pictures of or with us on her phone. There are no photo prints of us displayed in her home although we’ve given her framed copies. I assume she doesn’t want to explain to her church and friends that SO is a lesbian with a wife and adopted daughtemy birth daughter.
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2020.09.25 03:42 WillyTheDankMeme [Rant] my friend said something rude and i don’t know what to do but i don’t want to stop being his friend :/

also, this is a long one so strap in
my friend and i were joking around and i told him that my girlfriend and i were joking about walking into a church holding hands to see reactions(just because we crazy) and i was like “i wonder what those MASA(Make America Straight Again) people would think. i explained what it was and he started to get political and rude telling me things i never thought would come out of his mouth. before i quite a few things on what he said, let me tell you that he is having a very very hard time at home. he has to defend his mom in a domestic violence case from his ex step dad; he has mental problems but he takes care of his baby brother, and rude mom, and more so don’t go crazy rude or whatever, i genuinely feel bad about his situation though he shouldn’t of said what he said. he is not in a good mental place once again, and i’m always there for people i care about. i care about him but this hurt like hell :/
i was telling him about MASA(for educational purposes and why it’s bad)and he got all rude telling me we should have white straight republican male parades, and said more shit that was rude telling me that the thing i care about are dumb small things. this came out of nowhere. he told me not to get my feelings hurt by stupid things; i guess lgbt rights is stupid, i guess i’m stupid :/ he said “fuck if you are so proud why do you get to have a whole month dedicated to you? if you are proud you don’t have to prove yourself.” i never thought he’d say these things, but he is in a very bad place in his mind right now(i know it’s not an excuse but his position isn’t the greatest right now). he also told me that straight white cisgender males have been the most oppressed right now, and i don’t know where that is coming from, maybe i’m not watching the news enough idk :( this kid has never been called the f-slur, he has never had someone glare at him or someone look disgusted at him for holding hands with his girlfriend. i have; it sucks. sorry for the essay
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2020.09.25 02:47 672rubberbabies A rant, if you will listen.

Hey girls, I don't post/talk much but I've been here about a year and came to reddit for this form. Anyone struggle with feeling like a failure to family/(ex)husband/children? I struggle with feeling like a failure so badly coming out of a homophobic family. Even worse I'm such an anxious introvert so I have no more outreach for people similar to me than reddit. I am desperate for connecting to people like me or lgbt people in general. I have been separated from my husband for about a year and I live with my overly controlling homophobic father. I'm at a loss and am losing hope. I just wanted to reach out not looking for advice. I dont see things getting better and I'm reaching out for hope. I know y'all have tumultuous situations too, I would just like encouraging atm 🖤👃👭
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2020.09.24 14:35 miyukez [Supernatural Fandom] Rise of the Supernatural Fandom

So, Supernatural is halfway through its final season. I thought this was a good time for a retrospective of the early days of the fandom.
My personal relationship with this drama is basically non-existent. I did not watch Supernatural until 2013ish, and I'm an extremely casual fan who'll catch up with the show every few years when suitably bored. I've never been part of the online fandom.
Major spoilers for the first four seasons of Supernatural, vague spoilers for later seasons.
Season 1: a fandom is born
So, what is Supernatural about? According to the first press release on the show:
Gilmore Girls' breakout star Jared Padalecki and Smallville's Jensen Ackles are Sam and Dean Winchester; two young brothers bound by tragedy and blood to a dangerous, "other-worldly" mission. Crisscrossing the country in their '69 Chevy Impala, they carry on their missing father's quest to seek out and silence the supernatural forces responsible for their mother's murder twenty years ago.
Basically, it's a mostly episodic monster of the week show following two monster-hunting brothers, with a larger myth arc that ties things together. It airs on CW, a network famous for soapy teen drama/action shows, but Supernatural, a buddy cop/horror show, falls outside the network's usual purview.
Supernatural began airing in 2005, with one season a year since. The show made the smart decision to mirror real time, so fifteen years have also passed in-universe, and the less-smart decision to have many characters who canonly don't age. Whoops.
The early layout of the fandom was mostly Dean girls and Sam girls. With, um, shippers in the middle. Most of the fandom was on centered on Livejournal, and a collection of different forums devoted to the show. (Livejournal used to be one of the internet hotspots for fandoms. Basically tumblr before tumblr.)
Before diving in, I want to quickly reiterate that this was back in 2005, so fandom culture in general was quite different. And, generally speaking, the more volatile parts of any fandom are a vocal minority.
The first Dean fanclubs started before the show even aired, by fans of his actor who followed him here. These early fanclubs seemed equally as interested in the actors as they were the characters.
Fan A: yay! Jensen gets his own show! that's great! Can't wait for it to begin.
Fan B: I love Jensen. He's not only very cute but he's also a great actor
Fan C: The pilot is great, and i'm sure you'll love Jensen even more when you see it I hope the show does well too!
The first fanclubs for Sam were significantly less enthusiastic, but don't worry, it picks up steam once the show starts. Most of the talk is about how the actor for Sam played a character confusingly named Dean in the past, who they were not the biggest fans of.
Fan A: I love Jared. He's very hot. I've seen him in Gilmore Girls, New York Minute, and House of Wax. I can't wait to add Supernatural to my list.
Fan B: Theres a Dean on the show but it's not Jared? Confusing.
Fan C: i never liked Dean either, which is why Im really hoping Sam is a more intriguing character. The Pilot didnt give me such high hopes, but I think the show will build on his character and make him good to watch. I saw him in HOW and i thought his HOW character was too much like Dean too, so i hope they make Sam different.
By the time the show started airing, on one of the boards I'm referencing there were already threads about fanfiction, forum games, news threads, and so on. There are references to similar set ups over on Livejournal and other boards.
As Season 1 airs, the fanbase grows. And with it comes the "Wincest." As in, shipping the two brothers together.
In modern fan-speak, "shipping" is short for "relationshipping" aka, wanting two characters to be in a romantic relationship together. However, during 2005, shipping two male characters together was called "slash" or "slashing" due to conventions established in the Kirk/Spock fandom many years prior. This usage has dropped off in modern times, probably as it has become much more normalized to ship gay pairings in the broader zeitgeist, but you'll see it quoted a few times in this write-up.
That Wincest became so popular was probably inevitable. Dean and Sam were the only actual characters for a very long time, their relationship is the heart and soul of the show, and, well, fandoms like to ship. From what I can see of the early fandom, surprisingly few people were squicked by the incest factor, but it might just be that online Supernatural fan-spaces self-selected for that back then.
Even knowing that, personally I still have trouble seeing the appeal, so here's a Wincest fan describing why the incest doesn't drive them away in their own words:
I've never read incest slash before. Ever. I think the reason I can read this pairing is because I can wrap my mind around the idea that Dean and Sam have never lived within the boundaries of our society, and they're SO freakin' alone. They only have each other, and it makes sense to me that in time (in the hands of the right writer) that could have a sexual component added to it.
Of the first eight fanfiction posted on Fanfiction.Net, three were Wincest. During this time, three Livejournals were started related to Supernatural fanfiction. Two of them were mostly Wincest, the third was devoted to it. Looking back at the Supernatural fandom newsletters on Livejournal, about half of the fanfics written during the early seasons were Wincest, and most of the rest were devoted to the platonic relationship between the brothers.
Note that while I say Wincest, the fandom spent just as much, if not more, time devoted to shipping the two men who play Sam and Dean. u/idknewaccount did a wonderful write-up of RPF, or Real People Fiction in the Supernatural Fandom here. Basically, in the early Supernatural fandom the only stars were two hot guys who were brothers. Fans who weren't comfortable with incest, but still wanted slash, started shipping the stars of the show together instead. Oftentimes the two different ships occupied the same spaces, and fans would simultaneously ship both.
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Fan A: --- good to have you with us! Please make all the slashy banners your heart desires.
The Padackles [Ship name for the actors of Sam and Dean] hump! Do they not beg to be slashed? Seriously now, it's pics like that that put all of our minds in the gutter. We're only human!
Fan B: You know I'll live on this thread, ---. Will make some when I'm off from work.
I know right?! And remember Jensen's hand always always land on Jared's chest! we just answer to the calling.
Fan A: I think I'll be spending all er most er some of my time in here too! we should set up tents...make it a slumber party!
The chest moments sigh How I miss those. ...lately we haven't been getting them. ...but the best one EVER was the double chest pat from the 'day in the life' OMG that killed me! The way they were looking at eachother...plus the chest touching.
Banners and icons were made. (*)
The fandom continues to develop naturally throughout the first season. The fandom is most active on Livejournal, where we can see the various pursuits of the fandom through their weekly, then daily newsletters, which documented and distributed fanfiction, episode reviews, fan art, fan videos, news, and meta analysis (*). Full disclosure, I relied on these newsletters a ton when doing this research. Here's a Livejournal fandom guide written in February 2006 when season one was airing, and last updated during season two, where you can see all the Supernatural communities active during the this time on Livejournal (*).
Fans discussing their hopes for Season 2:
Fan A: if john [Sam and Dean's dad] comes back he needs to do that for both and say 'hey...sorry i yelled at you for not killing me.'
because yeah that scene in devils trap is pretty ridiculous. john seriously yelling at sam for not killing him? are you KIDDING ME? although that did get the whole "some things are more important" look from sam when he looks at dean in the back seat, which was good.
i do really want to see sam showing how much he loves his brother too and fighting things off. although i love protective!dean too
Fan B: ^ yeah! protective Dean is great but i think we need more on Sam to show some protectiveness towards Dean. it's about time. some and some it'll be so sweet.
....and more shirtless Wincest can't get them out of my head. the intensity is so hot and its beyond the highest level.
Fan C: I would not have a problem with that at all.
I'd love to see protective Sammy!! We don't get it enough.
Fan D: More humourous episodes like Hell House. Seriously lightened up season 1 after the angst fest that was Shadow.
SHIRTLESSNESS! I'm shallow yes I know but the boys are smoking!
Fan E: Oh yes! Shirtlessnaess is always a good thing! I'd love to see more of that
Also, more awww... brother moments, more protective!Sammy, i'd love to see Dean vulnerable for awhile jsut to have Sammy take care of him
In summery, the earliest start of the Supernatural fandom was completely devoted to Sam, Dean, and their relationship. Fans loved them together, whether platonically or romantically, and could not wait to get more of the same.
However, there was one small thing the fans despised.
Cassie.
A minor character who appeared in only one episode in all of Supernatural, Cassie was an ex girlfriend of Dean's who he left to keep safe. Unlike the other Girls of the Week, Dean actually had feelings for Cassie. The reaction was, well.
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Fan A: Cassie's such a horrible person for making us hate an episode like that.
Fan B: Exactly, selfish bitch now we can not enjoy that episode cause she blocks the view totally with her existence.
Fan C: yup, how can one person just totally ruin an episode like that? guh, I hate her
Fan B: I can't believe we had to suffer through her once, if we have to agian I may cry or break my tv, and I really can't afford a new one right now.
Yeah, let's just say she wasn't very popular. Despite the hate threads running for nearly four years after her appearance, she remained a one-off character.
The only reoccurring female character, Meg, also got some hate when her character was first announced, before she was revealed to be a villain (*).
Fans loved the relationship between the brothers, and they loved that the show was only about that, with no other reoccurring characters (aside from a few appearances from their missing father.) They did not want anyone else coming in and stealing screen time from their boys, especially not a female character. And anything or anyone that threatened to get in between the brothers? Kill it with fire.
As I'm sure you can guess, a show cannot last fifteen seasons on only two characters, and the fanbase was about to face the first real challenge to their beloved formula.
Season 2: More than two characters?!!??!!??! How dare they
When Season 2 finally aired, tragedy struck! Something terrible no one could have predicted was introduced to the show!!
A supporting cast. Even worse, female supporting cast members.
Cue Kill Bill sirens.
Season 2 introduced the Roadhouse, a Hunter-run bar where the brothers could regroup and pick up cases. The bar was run by two female characters, Ellen Harvelle and her daughter Jo.
Horror of all horrors, Jo had romantic chemistry with Dean, and it seemed as if the show was setting them up to be in a relationship.
Now, I do feel some sympathy for the fans. Supernatural airs on CW, a network infamous for romantic subplots hijacking shows originally about more interesting things. I would be mad if a show I liked with no romance was overtaken by it at the expense of everything else, and it was probably a legitimate concern with Supernatural.
That being said...
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The backlash was severe. Hate-clubs sprung up on Supernatural fan-spaces across the net, and everything about Jo was harshly criticized. Only two of the above images come from the Jo hate threads, which were hundreds of pages of bashing Jo and wishing her character dead, the rest are from episode discussions. Ellen, too, was hated but not quite as much so.
Not everyone hated Jo, and there was even a small but stable Dean/Jo shipping community, but the hatred was viscous and drowned out the affection by a large margin.
The result was, as one fan puts it:
Eric [Eric Kripke, Supernatural creator and seasons 1-5 show runner] is my hero! ...latest quote from Eric in from the TV guide interview posted in the news thread...
"While we're on the subject of the roadhouse characters, and of any potential romance with them, I do want to say to all the fans: Don't worry. We read the boards, we pay attention, and we take your concerns seriously. As I've said before, we gotta keep trying new things, but we're not going to pursue anything on the show that's not working"
Let's take a minute to Squee over that!
now let's ponder ....
Reads the message boards..knows what we want...then why aren't we getting any wincest?!
The intense fan reaction led to any romantic plotline between Jo and Dean being cut, and the Roadhouse was written out of the show by the end of Season 2.
So, Season 2 introducing a romantic subplot was a dead end. The fanbase threw such a revolt that Jo was completely written off the show, only brought back for a single episode in Season 5 just to be killed off.
The fans had made it clear what they wanted of Supernatural: Sam and Dean and NO ONE ELSE. Parental figures or villains were acceptable to an extent, but anyone beyond that would be attacked relative to how much the fans believed they would come between the brothers. A romantic plotline that will "threaten" the brotherly lovefest? Completely unacceptable.
And, the show runner not only heard them, but bowed to their demands in the face of the backlash.
The evil was defeated, the female characters were no more. The fandom rejoiced.
...Until Season 3 introduced two new female characters.
Season 3: So, no lessons were learned
In the pre-release for Season 3 it was announced that there would be two new reoccurring female characters in Ruby, a demon who fights other demons, and Bela, a thief with a complicated past. Adding insult to injury, Ruby was advertised to fans as a hunter more skilled than the brothers.
I think you guys already know how this will go.
Even before Season 3 started airing, the fans were down on the new characters.
Fan A: Right now, I just like the idea of the two of them being antagonists...I still kinda wish Ruby was older, since she is suppose to be "better" than Sam and Dean and experience usually goes handin hand with age. Yet, maybe they'll turn out to be cooler than expected, I mean, after the writers stop trying to pair Dean/Jo, her character became alot better.
Fan B: Ugh. Cassidy opens her mouth and I cringe. I love the sound of Bela but they both look like Barbie dolls in the pictures that were provided, and now Cassidy says Ruby is going to travel with the guys? Why the hell would she travel with them if she's supposed to be an antagonist?
Fan C: Bella: Maybe, we'll see.
Ruby: Bah. As much as I disliked Jo, she's looking better and better compared to THIS option.
Fan D: It's strange to me to be getting season 3 tidbits and interviews--and a good percentage of it NOT be focused on Sam and Dean. I know it's the CW's goal to pimp these girls, but it rankles. That said, Bela still sounds somewhat promising. I won't comment on Ruby, who will now, apparently, sometimes be traveling with them. twitch
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After the first episode of the new season aired:
Fan A: I hate that they're making the girls seem all superior and shit. And I'm not even one of those people against chicks on the show.
Fan B: no, i'm with you. i thought that was kind of bullshit.
Fan C: I'm all for girls on the show, as long as it doesn't distract from the core of Sam and Dean. I'd actually like it if a really cool girl came in for a minor role. We'll see how this new chick works out.
I just wish they didn't all have to be the perfect, blonde bombshells.
So, while there was some uproar when the characters were first announced, and a general sense of trepidation, some fans were willing to give them a chance as long as they remained minor characters.
But then... Ruby had romantic tension with Sam, and Bela with Dean.
Kill Bill sirens.
Ruby (*)
Demons are demons. She has no right to be hanging around our boys like she's some elite part of the demon population. Grr! What the hell makes her so special? Sam should have sent her straight back to hell the moment she flashed her skanky black eyes at him. Evil barbie witch bitch!!
They even wrote some poetry about how much they hate her! Behold: (*)
Bela (*)
I am so there with you about shipping Dean with Bela WTF!!! are they kidding? that is the most ridiculous thing ever, its absolutely no match there and just plain gross I really hope that bitch die or just go far away!!!
Bela was killed off in a traumatic way at the end of Season 3, and Ruby was revealed to be a villain all along and killed in a moment of catharsis for her hatedom in Season 4.
Kripke admitted that he did away with the character [Bela] partially due to the fans' hatred of her, and also said he regretted how the writers integrated her into the series. (*)
Now, there are some reoccurring characters in the first three seasons that were not attacked by fans. Jess, Sam's dead girlfriend, and Meg, who was strictly antagonistic, did not get that much hate. As one fan says:
Ah, Meg. Surprisingly, not someone I absolutely loathed - sure, she was an evil demon bitch, but I could appreciate her upfront evilness, whereas others like Ruby and Bela should just be nuked off the face of the earth.
Male characters were almost always left alone. The problem seemed to be with female characters that were perceived as threats to the current brotherly dynamic. Fans did not completely turn on Bela and Ruby until they realized that they were meant to be romantic interests for the brothers.
Originally, according to apocryphic sources, Season 3 was supposed to end with Sam, traumatized by being in the Trickster's Groundhog Day loop for a year, going full darkside in order to save Dean from Hell. (That sentence makes perfect sense in context.) However, the 2007 writers strike (*) ruined their plans, and Season 3 ended with the characters in a completely hopeless situation.
So, in order to get themselves out of that messy cliffhanger, in Season 4 they ended up introducing an element of the mythology which would come to define the show.
Season 4: The End of the Beginning
The first episode of Season 4, Lazarus Rising, aired on September 18th, 2008. And the fandom would never be the same.
For anyone who knows anything about Supernatural, really anyone who has glanced at tumblr anytime in the last decade, this was a foregone conclusion. The monster at the end of this write-up, so to say.
Castiel was introduced.
Castiel was an angel who claimed to be one of the good guys. He was also played by a handsome actor, and had an interesting rapport with Dean. The fanbase was intrigued.
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For the first time, the Supernatural fans embraced a character other than the Winchester boys (or their father figure Bobby).
And, after a single episode, the first Dean/Castiel-- eventually dubbed Destiel-- devoted Livejournal was started (*). The first two fanfiction was written within a few days(**). You can check the comment section to see fans discussing their hopes for Dean and Castiel's relationship. As one fan predicts:
This was -- well, lovely, but totally sad! (I like. g) Now I shall mull on the fic where a) there is a Sam-Dean-Castiel threesome and the fic where Sam and Castiel fight for Dean (with sex, naturally). I rather believe you are the first of quite the long succession of fics coming down the pipeline. rubs hands Way to set a standard!
Fans latched on to the ship, hungry for something that wasn't incest, or, um, something to compliment their incest.
(*)
The contrast with his reception and that of most other characters in the fandom was so obvious that when his actor was interviewed after the first episode by TVAddict it was brought up:
As Castiel ... Misha Collins managed to do the impossible: sweep the fiercely protective Winchester Fangirls off their feet. Which is exactly what I congratulated him on when I had the opportunity to chat with the actor over the phone yesterday.
A: I believe congratulations are in order. Your appearance on Thursday’s Supernatural season premiere left quite the impression on the fandom.
MC: Really? I thought this was par for the course.
A: Far from it. [Just ask Katie Cassidy [Ruby] and Lauren Cohan [Bela]]
Disgruntled Wincest shippers, or just fans of keeping the show devoted to the two brothers, had more complicated feelings about Castiel and Destiel.
(*)
Some even put up a fight:
(*)
Im just so frustrated that this character is still here. Hopefully he leaves in Season 7. I felt this angel/heaven SL went on a lot longer than it should have. And I will never understand the Cas worship this fandom has Season 1-3 are golden because thats when it was just about Sam and Dean. Hopefully next season brings that back. [Written at the start of Season 6]
It was in vain.
Castiel became a regular, and remains on the show to this day. Supernatural went from having two permanent main characters to three. And, while still platonic, Dean and Castiel's relationship takes up the screen time and emotional energy that the fandom once feared a romance would.
And, the fandom changed with it.
Today, Destiel is arguably the most popular ship, not just in Supernatural, but in all of fandom. It has the most fanfiction on AO3, the largest fanfiction archive in the English speaking web, with 88000 fics. (Wincest has 29000.) About 40% of Supernatural fanfiction is tagged "Destiel." It's won multiple "best couple" online contests against other shipping giants. For a few years at least half of tumblr was solely devoted to it. It's Big. Very Big.
In the modern Supernatural fandom, from what I can see of the iceberg, most fans dislike Wincest. Because, ya'know. It's incest. Fans who joined after Season 4 started never had a reason to learn to tolerate it, because it was no longer ubiquitous in the fandom and it was no longer the only ship possible, so the fandom slowly became less inviting to the Wincest shippers. The ship never went away, but it became a minority.
And, slowly, the cast started to grow.
Seasons 4 and 5 introduced a lot of characters that remained major reoccurring characters besides Castiel. A fair number are still around in Season 15, over ten years later. The show still has a tendency of needlessly killing characters, but it's no longer a two-man show.
On a broader scale, Season 4 changed the story from a monster of the week mostly episodic romp to an epic show about preventing the Apocalypse, with a large cast and a complex myth arc that is relevant in almost every episode. The heart of the show is still the relationship between the two brothers, but they now have more people to play off of, (and the actors are happier, because they have more time to spend with their growing families when there are other characters to carry scenes.)
Supernatural would never really be the same again, with the greater focus on myth arcs and expanded cast, the formula the fans fought for was irreversibly altered.
But the kicker is-- Castiel was only meant to last a few episodes. He was supposed to be killed off early on, not become a main character.
It was the fandom's love for him that saved him (and gave his actor a steady paycheck for the next decade.) The same fandom that doomed every character who so much as looked at the brothers in earlier seasons. Funny thing, ain't it.
Over the Years
By the way, I do not want to leave you with the impression fans stopped attacking every female character after the start of Season 4.
They did not.
Even with the insular nature of the show broken, Ruby hate was stronger than ever, Anna got a share, as did Lisa, and many others.
(*)
The change did happen, but it was very gradual. The first female character who broke the mold and was truly accepted and loved by fans was Charlie, who was a nerdy lesbian, introduced in season 7.
The way the fandom interacted with these characters changed, as more fans became concerned about things like Supernatural's habit of fridging(*) female characters, instead of cheering it on. Fans started begging for more female (as well as POC and LGBT) characters to appear on the show, and realized that the cast being almost entirely composed of white men (angels are technically agender eldritch beings but we still see mostly white men on screen) was not the greatest thing.
Nowadays, there are many beloved female characters who are whole-heartedly embraced by the fans, and most of the ones listed here have become much more popular over time. One time in a more recent season, a female character was unceremoniously fridged, and fans complained so much the showrunners eventually brought her back, in a complete reversal from the early fandom. There's even a popular ship between Sam and a female hunter!
It just took time.
The Supernatural fandom would stay almost entirely centered on Livejournal until 2011, when they started their move to tumblr and AO3.
Supernatural would be its biggest during the early 2010s, when it became part of the tumblr behemoth SuperWhoLock, a combination of the Supernatural, Doctor Who, and Sherlock fandoms. I'm not very familiar with these days, as it is very difficult to research tumblr fandoms, and I've only watched Supernatural anyways. Everything I've heard suggests that it was a complete mess, as all gargantuan fandoms are.
Today
Supernatural is in its fifteenth and final season. There are four main characters now, and most of the episodes so far have featured popular guest stars from earlier seasons getting a send-off. Not how someone would have pictured the end of Supernatural looking in Seasons 1 and 2!
The fandom is much less active than it was in the heyday of tumblr, as more shows have come out that might have interested the fans more, the two main sites for the fandom (tumbr and Livejournal) are less popular, and Supernatural is a zombie. But Supernatural being "less active" is still one of the largest fandoms on the internet.
As for a small dessert of current drama...
The fandom is currently doing some "conspiracy theory Destiel will totally happen" shenanigans, à la the Sherlock fandom. (u/urcool91 did an excellent write up of the Sherlock version of this drama here, as well as more info on SuperWhoLock.) Completely unrelatedly, Destiel fans have started calling themselves "clowns" because of how many times they've gotten excited over their ship only to have it not become canon. For some reason they've rebranded their ship to "DeanCas," seemingly to distance themselves from whatever reputation they gained back in their SuperWhoLock days. Uh, I'm just picturing the Destiel fandom wearing a fake mustache, going "Destiel? Who's that? We only ship DeanCas here," but whatever floats their boat.
I also heard something about twitter trying to "cancel" Supernatural on the final day of shooting. I mean, I think any earlier day would have been more productive, but twitter's gonna twitter. The reasons seem to be the "women in fridges," which we've already discussed, and "queerbaiting," which I am not knowledgeable enough to speak authoritatively on. Here are some articles on queerbaiting in Supernatural if you want to go down that rabbit hole. (**)
The ending will determine whether it will go out peacefully, or with Game of Thrones style hellfire. The fandom is so massive, with so many different facets and concerns, that it's impossible to have an ending that will leave everyone happy. Yet, after such a long run, I hope it manages to have a satisfying ending.
TL;DR: The Supernatural fandom brutally attacks all female characters, thinking they will steal screen time from the two protagonists. They manage to bully the show runners into following their demands time and again. One day they fail to chase away a cute new male character, and ironically he becomes basically everything they feared those female characters would be.
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2020.09.24 04:57 comfortpablo Western Liberals have no idea what Islam really is, and it is about time they stop defending a religion that openly threatens to kill homosexuals

I am an ex Muslim, family roots straight from middle east but born and brought up in UK. My parents are kinda agnostic but they maintain that social fabric of religion that is required by our local community here. Moreover, they do not want to be an outcast in the foreign land and they still want to be in good terms with their fellow middle easterns.
Everything was cool, my parents very well knew I was bi, they knew about my same sex relations and never had any issue with it. I turned 22 last year and for my birthday I eventually invited my partner to my birthday party. I won't go into details but one thing led to another and somehow someone actually saw that my partner was more than just a friend and we were a couple.
Fast forward a few days my mom is gettin questioned by a woman of our local muslim community about my plans for marriage, my future goals and other random stuff. When my mom did not reveal anything specific, this woman straight up asked about my sexual orientation and same sex relation.
My mom handled it well and did not give any straight answers. Tried to evade the whole topic and eventually informed me about the whole scenario. After a few days my dad is getting quetioned by a few of his friends and is getting judged for raising me wrong. These men portrayed things in a way as if my dad raised me wrong and that made me the way I am.
To save my family trouble of going through these questions, I decided to come out myself and asked each of these individuals to direct questions at me if they had any questions about my sexual orientation.
Well, as you would expect, shit literally hit the roof and I started getting calls from "concerned" fellow Muslims who wanted to let me know about my sickness and how I was going to burn in hell for eternity. I was harrassed by my own relatives and was treated like a sick person with a contagious disease. I received endless text messages where I was told to do something about my sickness or I was going to get my entire family endless suffering in the future.
My uncle who is deeply religious even asked my dad to send me back to their home country to teach me a lesson and to get me out of wests devil entaglement. This guy dared me to practice my sexuality in the middle east so that I could get the fair "capital punishment" for my acts that have brought shame upon my family.
I already am independent and so are my parents, we cut off ties from these harrassers and my parents really took a stand for me during these pathetic months. I decided to take screenshots for everything I went through, created a Twitter thread describing how I feel threatened by my own community more than I do by any one in this world.
I wrote an emotional poem describing my pain, I jolted down my challenges, I recited my each and every moment where I was humiliated for being a part of LGBTQ community. I shared the screenshots where people wanted me dead, I shared whatsapp chats where someone threatened me to stone my head to death if I ever tried maintaining contact to their kids (Cuz I have a contagious sickness obviously), and a screenshot of what my mom received.
Do you know what was the response?
400+ comments from college/school kids, telling me what an Islamophobe I am. How I painting a wrong picture of Islam. How I am running my own agenda to villify Islam. How I do not know the sufferings of Muslims in this world. These comments were mainly from people who I used to consider my allies. Almost each and everyone of them had a rainbow on their profiles, multiple tweets about secularism, how they were LGBT supporters, but somehow I was wrong here for my sexuality.
I really do not understand what is wrong? I support the left. I literall fall on libertarian left side of political spectrum. I have spent half my life attending LGBTQ rallies, attending refugee programs to help my fellow community members, lived my life as an activist but the day I went through real pain, I was left alone and was bullied just because I stood up against my own ex religion?
I really do not understand how am I in wrong for speaking up about getting death threats because of a holy book. What did I do wrong by being a bi, by having gender dysmorphia, by listening to my heart and not my religion. My own community shunned me and cussed me for being an Islamophobe.
How am I not supposed to fear Islam when I am literally getting threats of getting killed by them. Threats of being sent back to middle east just so I could be taught a lesson. Obviously it won't happen as I am an adult, but today I am deeply heart broken.
I am losing my head here, deleted my Twitter handle as I was doxed, my personal details revealed online and a few personal chats as well.
I really did not care much when people of my own religious community went against me, cuz I knew that day would come. But what really did hurt me today is the fact that the force that I considered my biggest ally, the people who always were all about equality, LGBTQ rights, Liberation are all against me today, just cuz I spoke the truth?
Don't even get me started with the harrassment my mom went through because she gave up her hijaab a few years back. Stop telling an actual muslim that Hijab is a choice. It is fucking not. You have not lived in an Islamic state, you have no fucking idea how women are treated. After years of mistreatment because of not wearing Hijaab, now my poor mom has to go through years of torture again because her child is an homosexual. Don't get me started on her childhood and her sufferings that turned her into an agnostic. How her friende, relatives and other women were treated in the middle east.
Muslim women born in west have no right to tell women born in Middle East that Islam is about progression. Your rights to even debate on Twitter were granted to you not because of Islam but because of the west and because of the actual liberals from the 50's. Stop riding your high horse telling actual victims that they are not the victims. I am sick and tired of seeing my parents suffer because they were born in Islam and have a homosexual child.
Why this double standard? Why has Islam got immunity against their acts from us liberals? The religion openly suggests death to all homosexuals, how are we supporting such religion?
I am sorry if I made typo's or if I didnt make sense at a few places. My head hurts right now. I might be called in HR's office tomorrow for being an Islamophobe I guess as my tweet got much more hate than I had expected. Sorry about the rant. I have posted this previously on other subs but I wanted to make my words reach more people, and thats why the post here.
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2020.09.23 20:16 Zodiac-Climber I need some advice for a friend of mine

So this is going to be a little bit long but I need some really good advice. I have a friend in Florida who I’m unable to give his location in because of the implications it will cause for him. He has been put in a terrible situation that there’s not a clear safe way out of and curious if anyone here has any advice.
So the story. My friend, I’m going to call him Bob, has a sugar daddy I’m going to call John. So Bob met John on Grindr a few months ago. From the very beginning the relationship has been terrible for Bob but it has continuously gotten worse for him. John is child predator in the exact definition of the word. He only goes after boys that are between 18-23 and he is 58 years old. Once his boy turns 23, he gets rid of them. And he specifically goes after boys who look as young as possible. He likes the boys that look like they’re under 15. He’s even been with boys that are as young as 10 before. Not only is John a child predator but he is also a serial rapist and abuser. Bob talks to me all the time about how John has drugged him and raped him. John drugs Bob because Bob is a top and doesn’t like bottoming. The drugs allow John to top Bob without Bob feeling it or even knowing what is going on. Yesterday Bob told me that John plans to give him enough drugs to allow 10 of his friends to rape him a day for a whole weekend purely because John wants to watch this happen. John also likes to take Bobs personal belongings and refuse to give them back unless he has sex with John and his husband.
Now normally the first advice I would give is to get out of the situation. Which I have given this advice but here is where the problem lies for Bob. John is a very prominent man in the gah scene of the city they live in and is even an ex Florida State Trooper and ex state trooper of another state. John has many friends in high places. Bob has talked to other boys that John has abused and raped for years and they have told him they’ve tried to report him before and nothing ever happens because of how prominent he is. And what gets worse from here is that John has connections to the cartel. He has Bob followed and watched 24/7. There’s nothing he can do that will not be seen by John and his followers. A few weeks ago when Bob refused to have a threesome with John and his husband, John left Bob for dead in a ditch. Thankfully Bob was able to survive still. John also controls what Bob is allowed to eat because John wants bob to be as skinny as possible and as young looking as possible. Currently Bob is about 20-30 lbs underweight because of the diet that John allows him to consume. Bob currently doesn’t know what to do to get out of this situation. I don’t know how to help him. And I’ve been trying to. Bob sees the only way out as suicide. I’ve been trying to talk bob into moving to my state but he is very scared to do so because he’s afraid that John will follow him here and kill him for leaving and put me in danger too. I’ve also told him to go to a LGBT support center to help him get out of the situation but the issue is that no support center is open in his city because of COVID.
My main concern is getting my friend Bob out of this situation and somewhere safe. If he came to live with me and my boyfriend, he would 100% be safe but Because he is scared of what will happen if he comes, he is very nervous about it. If anyone has any advice to help out it would be greatly appreciated.
Lastly, this is all 100% real. If you think it’s fake, don’t comment. You’re comments aren’t worth my time as this is very serious and I don’t want to waste my time on you.
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2020.09.23 14:56 comfortpablo I was bullied by my own relatives and my community for being a part of LGBTQ community and it hurts

I am an ex Muslim, family roots straight from middle east but born and brought up in UK. My parents are kinda agnostic but they maintain that social fabric of religion that is required by our local community here. Moreover, they do not want to be an outcast in the foreign land and they still want to be in good terms with their fellow middle easterns.
Everything was cool, my parents very well knew I was bi, they knew about my same sex relations and never had any issue with it. I turned 22 last year and for my birthday I eventually invited my partner to my birthday party. I won't go into details but one thing led to another and somehow someone actually saw that my partner was more than just a friend and we were a couple.
Fast forward a few days my mom is gettin questioned by a woman of our local muslim community about my plans for marriage, my future goals and other random stuff. When my mom did not reveal anything specific, this woman straight up asked about my sexual orientation and same sex relation.
My mom handled it well and did not give any straight answers. Tried to evade the whole topic and eventually informed me about the whole scenario. After a few days my dad is getting quetioned by a few of his friends and is getting judged for raising me wrong. These men portrayed things in a way as if my dad raised me wrong and that made me the way I am.
To save my family trouble of going through these questions, I decided to come out myself and asked each of these individuals to direct questions at me if they had any questions about my sexual orientation.
Well, as you would expect, shit literally hit the roof and I started getting calls from "concerned" fellow Muslims who wanted to let me know about my sickness and how I was going to burn in hell for eternity. I was harrassed by my own relatives and was treated like a sick person with a contagious disease. I received endless text messages where I was told to do something about my sickness or I was going to get my entire family endless suffering in the future.
My uncle who is deeply religious even asked my dad to send me back to their home country to teach me a lesson and to get me out of wests devil entaglement. This guy dared me to practice my sexuality in the middle east so that I could get the fair "capital punishment" for my acts that have brought shame upon my family.
I already am independent and so are my parents, we cut off ties from these harrassers and my parents really took a stand for me during these pathetic months. I decided to take screenshots for everything I went through, created a Twitter thread describing how I feel threatened by my own community more than I do by any one in this world.
I wrote an emotional poem describing my pain, I jolted down my challenges, I recited my each and every moment where I was humiliated for being a part of LGBTQ community. I shared the screenshots where people wanted me dead, I shared whatsapp chats where someone threatened me to stone my head to death if I ever tried maintaining contact to their kids (Cuz I have a contagious sickness obviously), and a screenshot of what my mom received.
Do you know what was the response?
400+ comments from college/school kids, telling me what an Islamophobe I am. How I painting a wrong picture of Islam. How I am running my own agenda to villify Islam. How I do not know the sufferings of Muslims in this world. These comments were mainly from people who I used to consider my allies. Almost each and everyone of them had a rainbow on their profiles, multiple tweets about BLM, how they were LGBT supporters, but somehow I was wrong here for my sexuality.
I really do not understand what is wrong? I support the left. I literall fall on libertarian left side of political spectrum. I have spent half my life attending LGBTQ rallies, attending refugee programs to help my fellow community members, lived my life as an activist but the day I went through real pain, I was left alone and was bullied just because I stood up against my own ex religion?
I really do not understand how am I in wrong for speaking up about getting death threats because of a holy book. What did I do wrong by being a bi, by having gender dysmorphia, by listening to my heart and not my religion. My own community shunned me and cussed me for being an Islamophobe.
How am I not supposed to fear Islam when I am literally getting threats of getting killed by them. Threats of being sent back to middle east just so I could be taught a lesson. Obviously it won't happen as I am an adult, but today I am deeply heart broken.
I am losing my head here, deleted my Twitter handle as I was doxed, my personal details revealed online and a few personal chats as well.
I really did not care much when people of my own religious community went against me, cuz I knew that day would come. But what really did hurt me today is the fact that the force that I considered my biggest ally, the people who always were all about equality, LGBTQ rights, Liberation are all against me today, just cuz I spoke the truth?
Why this double standard? Why has Islam got immunity against their acts from us liberals? The religion openly suggests death to all homosexuals, how are we supporting such religion?
I am sorry if I made typo's or if I didnt make sense at a few places. My head hurts right now. I might be called in HR's office tomorrow for being an Islamophobe I guess as my tweet got much more hate than I had expected. Sorry about the rant.
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2020.09.23 12:39 solongsunday Itaewon Class Review: Diverse, Bold and Free


Photo from Wikipedia
Synopsis: An ex-con and his friends fight to make their ambitious dreams for their street bar a reality.
Cinematography - ★★★★★ Audio-Visual Editing - ★★★★★ Concept - ★★★★★ Teleplay - ★★★★★ Actors - ★★★★★ Musical Score - ★★★★★
WARNING: Slight spoilers

Featuring issues about race, LGBT and mental health, Itaewon Class is one of the most diverse and boldly written K-Dramas that ever aired.
THE GOOD: Among all the dramas I had watched, Itaewon Class has the most decent portrayal of a mental condition, i.e. sociopathy. Unlike most dramas, the portrayal was realistic in a way that it does not sugarcoat nor stigmatize the condition. It even included an official diagnosis of a psychiatrist before labeling Jo Yi Seo as a sociopath which is nice.
Another things that I loved about the show is the nonchalance of discussing the aforementioned social issues. They didn’t try too hard, so everything went through naturally. Yi Seo’s sociopathy wasn’t portrayed in a way that the condition worked like magic nor it became a huge hindrance with her relationship to people like a lot of material featuring the condition picture. In short, she was not mainly defined by her condition. Yi Seo was more than just a sociopath who needed a monthly evaluation by her psychiatrist; she was a woman with an IQ of 162 and she started to make herself rich as soon as she reached her 20s. Sociopathy was a part of her and it was not a weakness at all. It’s way more inspiring than people realize.
Unlike the other material made that has at least one of the aforementioned social issues, this drama lowkey says that it’s okay to disagree with other people’s preferences for themselves but you should NEVER stop them from living their lives in general especially if they’re not hurting anyone. If you can’t accept them, just shut up and don’t try to “straighten” them in accordance to what you believe in. Additionally, it also says that racism and discrimination is never OK; I was actually shocked that the writers had the guts to write about the prejudice and discrimination South Koreans have against Black people and transgenders, so props to them for that. It was risky but it paid off and I’m proud of them for doing that.
THE BAD: Four words: the cliché kidnapping situation. I don’t know with y’all but no matter how good the actors or dialogue are, it’s a no for me. I’ve noticed that more and more K-Dramas are having these kinds of scenes more often and I’m getting worried. This sounds kinda sensitive but this ruined the whole drama for me because I know the writers could have done better and I’m sure they knew that to themselves.
THE UGLY: Not really something “ugly”: Kim Toni’s actor Chris Lyon wasn’t a very convincing actor, BUT he’s sooo cute and he has a unique charm that makes you forget about that fact. I honestly don’t mind, Imma say it again: he’s so cute and so good in Korean!
UNLIKE THE POPULAR OPINIONS: A lot of people rooted for Soo Ah, but her love story with Sae Ro Yi was obviously never meant to happen, ever. Yi Seo indeed deserved Sae Ro Yi and Soo Ah didn’t. The latter betrayed Sae Ro Yi in multiple occasions by telling Chairman Jang about what’s happening in DanBam. Also, she had her chance to be with Sae Ro Yi for literally more than a decade but she kept him waiting and demanded so much like a princess. Like Yi Seo said, she sacrificed WITH Sae Ro Yi while Soo Ah made him sacrifice.
Lastly, a lot of people were crying about the two leads not having much chemistry. Personally, I really didn’t mind because it was not mainly a love story. For a rookie, Da Mi nailed the role. She kinda reminded me of Kim Go Eun, though she was less gutsy and daring.
Overall: ★★★★☆ (would've been a perfect 5 if the kidnapping situation was scrapped out)
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2020.09.23 10:11 IluvBsissa Yes Liberal Islam Is A Real Thing. Here's How It Works :

When I went to Cambridge, I met a few Muslims from all over the world (one of them was even a pure Irish convert with red hair and sh!t and wore the veil), and I was stricken by how liberal their opinions were :
- They supported LGBT
- They believed in freedom of opinion and religion
- They wished democracy for all
- One of them was a even a Palestinian Communist
They told me they defended the "Real Islam" (whatever that might be) and offered a few relevant key points :
Long ago, was held a big controversy in the Islamic world. Scholars were toiling with the idea of the Quran being created or not.
If the Quran was "created", it means it was mainly a set of temporal commands given to the Prophet in order to ensure the survival of his community and the defeat of the Quraysh. As such, every verses should be contextualized and not taken literally.
If the Quran was "uncreated", it means it has always been there, waiting in heaven before the beginning of time, and should be the ultimate guideline for every Muslim on the planet at any time.
The first ones were dubbed the "rationalists" or Qadarites. They followed the Prophet's command to "seek knowledge at every corner of the Earth" and read all the Greeks and Roman Philosophers. They are the one behind the "House of Wisdom" in Baghdad, where all Ancient works got translated in Arabic. Some names : Ibn Rushd, Al Kindi, Ibn Sina. Their work was then translated in Latin and had a great influence on European scholars.
The rationalists believed that God wanted all Men to use their own judgment and not be coerced by other men's power, since only God has the power to judge man. "No compulsion in Religion. To you your religion, to me my religion" says the Quran. As such, tolerance and freedom of choice were essential for humans to reach "godlike" qualities, and could never be imposed by force.
They also rejected hadiths that didn't seem to compute with the Quran (ex : "if someone leaves his religion, kill him"). This is important. the Sunna was only written down 200 years after Muhammad's death, while the Quran was compiled while he was still alive. As such, it's impossible to know if some hadiths are legits or not.
The problem is that the Sunnis give way too much importance to the Sunna, almost raising it at the same level as the Quran. Turns out it has always been hearsays and generally made up by the ruling powers of the Omeyya to legitimate their regime.
Fortunately, the first Abassids supported the rationalist schools and tried to suppress the "traditional" one. They failed. The traditionalists got a huge popular support that allowed them to gain political power really quickly, starting off the demise of the "bright" Islamic world.
Then the Mongols came and erased everything the rationalists had done : all their work was thrown into the Tigris. Then the Portuguese discovered new routes, destroying the main source of income for many Islamic states and thus the Arab world was doomed to remain a set of backward societies until today.
The Ottoman managed to liberalize Islam to a great extent, even before Attaturk came along. Everything its secular regime had done was only the prolongation of the new Sultan's policies : freedom of religion, citizenship and civil rights for everyone under his rule, no exclusion, women's right, etc.
Nobody remembers the rationalists any more, their writings spilled in the dust, even by secularists Arab regimes who are greatly responsible for the rise of Islamism because of their religious intolerance and repression (a woman could not study at the University if she was wearing the veil in Turkey).
The reason the Traditionalists won is because of environmental and geopolitical factors. First : people subjected to autocratic rule and ruthless obedience with no chance to "express their individuality" are easier to control. Second : the Rationalist were all merchants or artisans who travelled a lot and lived comfortable lives (like the Prophet), while the Traditionalists were all Bedouin or farmers, living in horrendous condition...liberalism is too much of a luxury for people who live in these environments.
It is said that when a Bedouin saw Muhammad kissing a child, he said : "I have 10 children and never kissed a single one of them". Then the Prophet responded : those who do not spread mercy will never receive mercy." So basically, it's two different Arab societies dealing with each other. Muhammad was never a true "Arab", which means the same thing as "Hebrew", a wanderer, a nomad. Turns out the Nomadic ones prevailed.
Ibn Khaldun always emphasized the destructive nature of the nomadic Arabs, while making a distinction with sedentary Arabs which he always praised.
So the problem is not Islam...it's the Nomads, which are all powerful right now thanks to Petro-dollars.
So guys here's an idea : you can't turn people into better, tolerant individuals by forcing them to believe in "Reason" and rejecting their old beliefs. Attaturk, Bourguiba, and the Shah did that and it failed tremendously, giving even more power to the Fundamentalists. The solution is to bring the old Mutazilites Rationalist school back in the game, and promoting the liberal approach of reading and interpreting the Quran.
I recommend : "Islam without Extremes" from Mustapha Akyol.
Thanks for reading this long post.
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2020.09.22 17:51 LJWill91 I am 29 years old, make $170,000 base (plus $30-40,000 bonus and $30,000 vesting stock), live in Seattle and work as a Creative Project Manager in Tech

A little about me: I'm 29, British and Queer :) I moved from England to the US as part of a work transfer three years ago and love Seattle. My life has changed a lot over the past few years, I realized I was gay, moved to Seattle, stopped talking to my toxic mum, had a lotttttt of therapy and moved in with my partner, L. My financial knowledge has gone from 0-60 in the past three years thanks to personalfinance, a few finance books and moneydiariesactive. I'm an open book so ask any qs you'd like! I hope you enjoy!
Section One: Assets and Debt
Net Worth: $283,000
Retirement Balance:
401k $30,000
UK 401k $22,000
Index Funds $155,000
(Tip: I used the bankrate.com retirement calculator to figure out how much I actually need to invest for retirement each year. This really cleared up what I need to invest as a minimum each year to hit my retirement target, before I can decide what to live off and save for shorter term purchases e.g. a house.)
Equity if you're a homeowner:
$52,000 in an apartment in the UK (worth $275,000) that I’m selling right now. I bought it with my ex-boyfriend five years ago and loved living there at the time, but owning it since moving to the US has been a bad idea – it hasn’t gone up in value at all since I purchased in 2015, the rent my tenants pay doesn’t cover the mortgage and it requires lots of costly maintenance.
When I bought it, I received $12,000 towards a down payment from my mum. I have three brothers and I'm expecting brothers 2 and 3 to receive the same, but not brother 1, so I'm planning to give half of the $12,000 to him when the sale goes through.
Also, when I sell, I either owe $0, $15,000 or $30,000 to the US government as part of a tax law that assumes I've made profit because of changing exchange rates. Every accountant I speak to has a different answer, so let's see in January! At some point I'll use the rest of the money towards a down payment for a house in the US.
Savings account balance:
Emergency Fund $17,500
Holiday Fund $7,000
Fun Money $4500 (I might end up investing half of this in index funds)
Fund to cover capital gains tax for my 2020 tax bill $2029
Checking account balance:
I leave $1,500 per pay check in my account for living costs, plus enough to cover my rent and bills. I pay for all of my living costs on an Amex Delta credit card to get points and pay it off in full each month.
Credit card debt: $0
Student loan debt: $0. I completed a music degree in England (this cost $35,000 for three years of tuition, rent and living costs). My parents paid for my tuition, rent and 50% of my living costs, and I worked for them during the holidays to cover 50% of my living costs. Once I joined the working world, I realized how much of a big deal it was that they paid for my education and what a head start it gave me having no student debt. I am very grateful.
Anything else that’s applicable to you:
I had a privileged start, my parents paid for my education and I received $12,000 towards a house down payment. I graduated from University at 21, and whilst I have been financially independent since then, there is an emotional safety net that comes with knowing I could go home to my Dad if I needed to.
After working in England from 21-26, I moved to Seattle with $20,000 saved for retirement, $40,000 in my UK apartment and no other savings. My salary doubled moving to the US and as a result I’ve been able to save a lot over the past few years. A few years ago, my Dad suggested I read How To Own The World. It gave me a really great introduction to lots of different aspects of finance (inflation, saving, types of accounts, retirement etc) so I read a few other finance books, started following personalfinance and have had a massive shift in my attitude towards finances.
Section Two: Income and Income Progression
I graduated with a music degree aged 21 and decided that, although I loved music, I wasn't passionate enough to fight for a career in such a competitive field. Instead, I decided I'd like to explore a career that involved lots of people interaction and could pay well: sales. Since then I've ended up working in sales, marketing and engineering, all in tech.
- 2013 - $25,000 - I joined a tech company as a sales graduate selling Healthcare software. Direct selling wasn't a great match for my skillset.
- 2014 - $37,000 plus $30,000 in commission - After nine months, my manager suggested I moved to a technical sales role in the same company and I was given a $12,000 raise. I loved this role! Lots of presenting in formal sales processes.
- 2015 - $47,000 plus $30,000 bonus - After playing a major part in $3.5 million in sales in one year, I negotiated an additional $10,000.
- 2016 - $70,000 plus $30,000 bonus and a $5,000 stock award (vesting over 5 years) - I moved to a big tech company in a similar technical sales role and my salary jumped significantly.
- 2018 - $137,000 plus $30,000 bonus, an end of year $25,000 stock award (vesting over 5 years) and a one off $25,000 stock award for good performance (vesting over five years) - I relocated with the same company to the US in a marketing role and my salary doubled!
- 2019 - $160,000 plus $30,000 bonus and a $25,000 stock award (vesting over 5 years) - I took a new role in engineering as a Creative PM and my salary increased by 15%. A major driver for moving was being told promotions were off the table in my old team unless you had been in role for three years.
- 2020 - $170,000 plus $42,000 bonus and a $48,500 stock award (vesting over five years) - I was promoted in role and my salary increased.
It blows my mind that I earn this much money for a role that I enjoy so much. I'm very lucky.
Main Job Monthly Take Home: $8,500 per month, after maxing my 401k, contributing $510 to my HSA and healthcare/taxes etc.
Any Other Income:
Having received stock awards every year for the past 5 years, I now have stock vesting every year that adds up to about $30,000 pre-tax. I immediately sell and invest in diversified index funds via Vanguard to minimize the risk that would come with having a large amount of my savings in the same company that pays my paycheck (if the company tanks, I'd lose my job and the stock would plummet in value).
I also receive an annual bonus of between 15-30%. This year it was 27% (an amazing, unexpected surprise), it’s usually around 20%. Last year I invested 90% and spent 10% on a vacation to Japan. This year it was a lot higher, so I invested 66%, saved 21% for moving costs/vacations next Summer and kept the rest as a fun fund.
I also get $1050 in rent for my UK apartment, but the mortgage is $1150, so I make a loss.
Other:
My income is completely separate to my partner, L. We take turns paying for groceries/meals out/trips and assume it evens out to 50/50. Right now, I earn a lot more than L, who is a medical resident and earns about $100,000, with no student debt, but we both live off about the same amount per year as I'm focused so heavily on investing.
Section Three: Expenses
Rent and utilities: $1,300/month for my half of a two bed, two bath in Fremont. I moved in with L, last month and we split the rent 50/50. Previously my rent was $2060/month for an open one bed in the Capitol Hill.
Extra costs for UK mortgage/management company fees: $500
Investment/savings: Until this month, I was investing $2,000- $2,500. Now that I’ve reached my investment target for the year (a combination of my bonus, savings and vested stock), I’m re-routing that to a savings fund in a HYSA for next Summer. I’m planning to relocate to the East Coast with L, and hoping to take the summer off between jobs.
Donations: $130/month to Black Lives Matter, Save the Children, an LGBT charity in England and a COVID relief fund. These are also matched by my employer 100%.
Cellphone: $30 in a shared plan with some friends
Wifi: $60 Subscriptions: Netflix $15, Amazon $14, AppleCare $12
Regular therapy: $160/month for two sessions with my UK therapist and $180/session roughly every 2-3 weeks with my tantra coach.
Living: I budget $3000 per month for living, therapy and tantra.
COVID-19: In current COVID times in Seattle, cases are being managed well by the city, we are in phase 2 and can meet up with 5 people per week who aren't in our household network and can go to restaurants with people in our household.
Tuesday:
7am - Bonus day! I start to think about what to do with some of the money in my fun fund. On my wishlist: Glittery Dr Martens 🥾, a vacuum that also steams floors, everything on the Olive website and lift tickets for 🎿 over winter.
8am - Work work work work work 🎶 Every day starts with calls with my team in India to review their product configuration progress. My role focuses around writing product pitches/demonstrations that sellers will deliver to customers. My days are spent talking to sellers about common customer requests, writing narratives to present the value of the products and designing screens to be built by my engineers/consultants.
9am - I spend $50 on an Amazon order for 🧼,🧴and English 🍫.
12pm - I accidentally start a small kitchen fire heating some heat pads in L’s dutch oven. The fire department was involved🔥😭
2pm - I have a call with a design lead about potential roles in their team. I'd love to expand my skillset into videos and 🙋🏼‍♀️
3pm - Our Imperfect Foods box arrives. This week we got eggs, veggies, fruits, goats cheese and gnocchi. $25, but I paid for this last week.
5pm - I go for an early dinner with L at Manolin to celebrate my bonus/destress after the fire🍴🍷 Restaurants are open in Seattle at 50% capacity and everyone wears masks. I pay. $150
8pm - Listen to records with L 🎶 and fall asleep at 9.30.
Total: $200
Wednesday:
8am - More calls, more feedback, more unblocking the engineers👩🏼‍💻
10am - I FaceTime catch up with my Dad ❤️ He just bought a house in the English countryside with his partner, L, and he gives me more excited updates about how renovations are going.
2pm - I get some excellent feedback about yesterday’s call, the manager wants me in his team 🙌🏻
6pm - Vegetarian taco night and cocktails with L ❤️🌮
8pm - I order a replacement pan after destroying L’s. $198
8.30pm - We start watching Normal People 📺
Total: $198
Thursday:
10am - My youngest brother schedules his first therapy appointment! 🙌🏻 I have three brothers and two are at high school or university and aren’t working. I believe we would all benefit from therapy, so this year I offered to pay for both of them. Now all four of us have been at some point ❤️ $59
12pm - Fire fighting at work, trying to fix products that keep breaking in time to deliver product demos to sellers next week 🔥💻
3pm - I do a trial recording with my colleague for a broadcast next week. 🎥🎞 The broadcast goes out to somewhere between 250,000-1,000,000 people. The broadcast is usually in a studio, but because of covid we’re shooting at home this time.
5pm - L comes home with a cuuuute new haircut 💁🏻‍♀️ and a new burner ring for our stove after it was damaged in the 🔥. L pays.
7pm - We make pizzas 🍕 and talk about what time togetheco existing/apart looks like for each of us. Moving in together is big and it helps to understand what makes each other feel good/not so good. The conversation is emotional and really helpful.
Total: $59
Friday:
8am - I have a morning of calls with India/England/US agreeing next steps/fire fighting 🔥
11am - I reflect on how writing a money diary is making me feel guilty about spending money, even if my “normal” spending fits into my budget and my “fun” spending comes from my bonus. One to talk about in therapy I think.
4pm - Another busy afternoon jumping between calls. A good rehearsal for the broadcast ✔️ good feedback on our demo content ✔️ next week planned out in Outlook ✔️
5pm - I meet with my tantra coach for a two hour session. I originally started going to see them to learn more about sex (🙌🏻) but have learned that tantra is much bigger than that, it’s an eastern tradition that is centered around connecting with your heart and body and being present. It’s had a massive impact on my ability to get out of my head. Today we focused on simple body exercises to get me more connected to my body. $200
7pm - L started a 30 hour shift this morning so I have a solo date night ❤️ bath-time + Quorn chicken nugget wraps (I love eating in the bath 😆) + TikTok ✌🏻
Total: $200
Saturday:
8am - I wake up and listen to Jameela Jamil and Katherine Ryan in the iWeigh podcast.
9am - I meditate 🧘🏼‍♀️. I started meditating 3-7 times per week six months ago using the Headspace app and it was a great intro. I’ve been resisting meditating for the past two weeks, and going to see my tantra coach has given me the umph to start again today. I do 20 minutes unguided.
10am - L comes home from work and we catch up before they sleep 💤 I spend the day in the bath, reading The Untethered Soul, eating fake sausage patties, eggs and sautéed tomatoes on toast, on reddit, watching Normal People and napping 🛀📚
6pm - I see my two best friends, N&V, a queer couple in Seattle ❤️ they know how to make me feel loved and buy all of my favorite foods for dinner ❤️ I uber there and back wearing a mask. $30
Total: $30
Sunday:
10am - I spend the morning eating eggs, veggies and fake chorizo, reading The Untethered Soul and The Simple Path to Wealth in the bath, and meditating.
1pm - I FaceTime my Dad and his partner, L ❤️
2pm - L and I spend the afternoon watching Ratchet, snoozing and walking to Gas Works park to get some fresh air.
6.30pm - We cook veggie bolognese with gnocchi and have some quality time after a crazy month of shifts for L.
10pm - L crashes and I order a Dyson vacuum with some of my bonus money #thisis29. $385
Total: $385
Monday:
7am - I wake up and meditate🧘🏼‍♀️
8am - Catch up calls with the India team. I have a fairly slow morning after that, agreeing deliverables for the week with our team.
12pm - I make sweet potato tacos for lunch using up ingredients in the fridge 🙌🏻🌮
4pm - I do a recording for the broadcast on Wednesday. Oh hey there hair, makeup and formal work clothes, where have you been hiding? 💄
5.30pm - L and I listen to a Lake Street Dive concert online on the porch 🎵
7.30pm - L buys groceries and we head for a socially distanced picnic outside.
Total: $0
Food + Drink: $160
Fun / Entertainment: $0
Home + Health: $644
Clothes + Beauty: $40
Transport: $30
Other: $198
Weekly Total: $1072
Lastly, reflect on your diary!
Writing this diary was good for me! It made me see some of the small, happy moments that happen each day.
All in all, apart from the vacuum that I bought with my bonus, this is average spending for me. I'm very conscious of not spending more than $700/week. This means if I have more expensive days, like days when I have to pay for therapy or tantra, I'll make sure I balance it out on other days.
I feel incredibly lucky that I have a high salary that gives me an incredibly good quality of life and enables me to save for the future. I have an "it's too good to be true" fear, so I'm focused on investing a lot right now to set myself up long term.
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2020.09.22 08:36 Limoncito_015 I fell in love with... my internet friend?

Well... I don't know how to start this, but the thing is that I think I fell in love with one of my Internet friends. She lives in Argentina and I am from Chile, we met each other in 2017 and now we are close friends (unfortuently we haven't met in person yet). She treated me so well that even made me doubt about my sexual orientation.
At first I think that it was just "friend's love" but with the passage of time that affection towards her began to grow more until it became love. The problem here is that she has a boyfriend and I think she is straight. She dated (by internet) another close friend (bisexual) that I have but they broke and she said to me that she "confirmed" that she was straight (even thought I don't know if that is 100% true). I don't now if it's a good idea to confess my love or hide it by myself until another time. I don't want to bother or make her feel unconfortable, plus I feel that it wouldn't be the right thing to do since she's already in a relationship and she dated another close friend (you know, the typical rule that you can't date your friend's ex and things like that, even if she already over it. ), I don't know what to do, my head is spinning and my heart is very confused right now... I need advices, please help :(
One thing I want to add is that she supports the LGBT+ community, but still I have that fear of confessing my love, maybe because I'm afraid of rejection or because maybe after I confess me everything would change (our friendship), I am very afraid...
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2020.09.22 00:51 dannypas00 20 [M4R] [M4F] - Netherlands - Kinda need some one-on-one friends 👉👈🥺

Hey there, I'm back again, apparently finding friends is a little difficult...
I'm a dutch software engineer in study, 20 years old. I'm generally way too affectionate and open for my own good, immediately opening up to people about my personal life if I like you enough. I'm good at keeping the conversation going (though this will need some interaction from your side), love being overly flirty, cuddly, and cute haha.
Currently spending a lot of my time (8 to 4 every day) on studying for my ethical hacking degree (no, I won't hack your ex for you), but I have time in between to talk😊.
My other interests include anime, series (currently watching Mr. Robot), youtube, podcasts, some light gaming (haven't had enough time to play as much as I want unfortunately), and last but not least drinking and chilling with friends :D
About myself: - Tall (6'1" / 186 cm), broad shouldered, completely in contrast to my personality lol - Tiny bit more fat on me than I'd like (Not fat, just soft lol. Although because of the way my body is built, it doesn't look that bad) - I'm very emotional and affectionate, warning: I might cry when we watch emotional movies lol - I can be pretty active, having a ton of energy, though I have my down moments as well 😅 - Open to discussing any topic, LGBT friendly (though I'm straight myself), 420 friendly (might try it some time if I'm with the right people [will you be that person? umu])
About you / the person I'm looking for: - I definitely prefer girls, as I generally click better with them, though I'm open to that notion being changed haha - I'd love it if you're somewhere in or near the Netherlands, as I could use some physical contact / meeting up; haven't really done so since when lockdown started haha - Please be between 18 and 25 years old - I don't give a shit about looks - Be okay with me being a little eager for attention and affection, I most certainly will nerd out over all of your passions hahaha - No 2 word replies (you know what I mean; keep the conversation going :D) - Be chill, though we'll see about this in our talks!
So, just hit me up, even if you don't think we're an exact match, we might just work!
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2020.09.22 00:47 dannypas00 20M - Netherlands - Kinda need some one-on-one friends 👉👈🥺 [Friendship] [Chat] [Voice] [Relationship]?

Hey there, I'm back again, apparently finding friends is a little difficult...
I'm a dutch software engineer in study, 20 years old. I'm generally way too affectionate and open for my own good, immediately opening up to people about my personal life if I like you enough. I'm good at keeping the conversation going (though this will need some interaction from your side), love being overly flirty, cuddly, and cute haha.
Currently spending a lot of my time (8 to 4 every day) on studying for my ethical hacking degree (no, I won't hack your ex' instagram for you), but I have time in between to message 😊.
My other interests include anime, series (currently watching Mr. Robot), youtube, podcasts, some light gaming (haven't had enough time to play as much as I want unfortunately), and last but not least drinking and chilling with friends :D
About myself: - Tall (6'1" / 186 cm), broad shouldered, completely in contrast to my personality lol - Tiny bit more fat on me than I'd like (Not fat, just soft lol. Although because of the way my body is built, it doesn't look that bad) - I'm very emotional and affectionate, warning: I might cry when we watch emotional movies lol - I can be pretty active, having a ton of energy, though I have my down moments as well 😅 - Open to discussing any topic, LGBT friendly (though I'm straight myself), 420 friendly (might try it some time if I'm with the right people [will you be that person? umu])
About you / the person I'm looking for: - I definitely prefer girls, as I generally click better with them, though I'm open to that notion being changed haha - I'd love it if you're somewhere in or near the Netherlands, as I could use some physical contact / meeting up; haven't really done so since when lockdown started haha - Please be between 18 and 25 years old - I don't give a shit about looks - Be okay with me being a little eager for attention and affection, I most certainly will nerd out over all of your passions hahaha - No 2 word replies (you know what I mean; keep the conversation going :D) - Be chill, though we'll see about this in our chats!
So, just hit me up, even if you don't think we're an exact match, we might just work!
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2020.09.22 00:46 dannypas00 20M - Netherlands - Kinda need some one-on-one friends 👉👈🥺

Hey there, I'm back again, apparently finding friends is a little difficult...
I'm a dutch software engineer in study, 20 years old. I'm generally way too affectionate and open for my own good, immediately opening up to people about my personal life if I like you enough. I'm good at keeping the conversation going (though this will need some interaction from your side), love being overly flirty, cuddly, and cute haha.
Currently spending a lot of my time (8 to 4 every day) on studying for my ethical hacking degree (no, I won't hack your ex' instagram for you), but I have time in between to message 😊.
My other interests include anime, series (currently watching Mr. Robot), youtube, podcasts, some light gaming (haven't had enough time to play as much as I want unfortunately), and last but not least drinking and chilling with friends :D
About myself: - Tall (6'1" / 186 cm), broad shouldered, completely in contrast to my personality lol - Tiny bit more fat on me than I'd like (Not fat, just soft lol. Although because of the way my body is built, it doesn't look that bad) - I'm very emotional and affectionate, warning: I might cry when we watch emotional movies lol - I can be pretty active, having a ton of energy, though I have my down moments as well 😅 - Open to discussing any topic, LGBT friendly (though I'm straight myself), 420 friendly (might try it some time if I'm with the right people [will you be that person? umu])
About you / the person I'm looking for: - I definitely prefer girls, as I generally click better with them, though I'm open to that notion being changed haha - I'd love it if you're somewhere in or near the Netherlands, as I could use some physical contact / meeting up; haven't really done so since when lockdown started haha - Please be between 18 and 25 years old - I don't give a shit about looks - Be okay with me being a little eager for attention and affection, I most certainly will nerd out over all of your passions hahaha - No 2 word replies (you know what I mean; keep the conversation going :D) - Be chill, though we'll see about this in our chats!
So, just hit me up, even if you don't think we're an exact match, we might just work!
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2020.09.22 00:46 dannypas00 20M - Netherlands - Kinda need some one-on-one friends 👉👈🥺

Hey there, I'm back again, apparently finding friends is a little difficult...
I'm a dutch software engineer in study, 20 years old. I'm generally way too affectionate and open for my own good, immediately opening up to people about my personal life if I like you enough. I'm good at keeping the conversation going (though this will need some interaction from your side), love being overly flirty, cuddly, and cute haha.
Currently spending a lot of my time (8 to 4 every day) on studying for my ethical hacking degree (no, I won't hack your ex' instagram for you), but I have time in between to message 😊.
My other interests include anime, series (currently watching Mr. Robot), youtube, podcasts, some light gaming (haven't had enough time to play as much as I want unfortunately), and last but not least drinking and chilling with friends :D
About myself: - Tall (6'1" / 186 cm), broad shouldered, completely in contrast to my personality lol - Tiny bit more fat on me than I'd like (Not fat, just soft lol. Although because of the way my body is built, it doesn't look that bad) - I'm very emotional and affectionate, warning: I might cry when we watch emotional movies lol - I can be pretty active, having a ton of energy, though I have my down moments as well 😅 - Open to discussing any topic, LGBT friendly (though I'm straight myself), 420 friendly (might try it some time if I'm with the right people [will you be that person? umu])
About you / the person I'm looking for: - I definitely prefer girls, as I generally click better with them, though I'm open to that notion being changed haha - I'd love it if you're somewhere in or near the Netherlands, as I could use some physical contact / meeting up; haven't really done so since when lockdown started haha - Please be between 18 and 25 years old - I don't give a shit about looks - Be okay with me being a little eager for attention and affection, I most certainly will nerd out over all of your passions hahaha - No 2 word replies (you know what I mean; keep the conversation going :D) - Be chill, though we'll see about this in our chats!
So, just hit me up, even if you don't think we're an exact match, we might just work!
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2020.09.22 00:46 dannypas00 20 [M4F] - Netherlands - Kinda need some one-on-one friends 👉👈🥺

Hey there, I'm back again, apparently finding friends is a little difficult...
I'm a dutch software engineer in study, 20 years old. I'm generally way too affectionate and open for my own good, immediately opening up to people about my personal life if I like you enough. I'm good at keeping the conversation going (though this will need some interaction from your side), love being overly flirty, cuddly, and cute haha.
Currently spending a lot of my time (8 to 4 every day) on studying for my ethical hacking degree (no, I won't hack your ex' instagram for you), but I have time in between to message 😊.
My other interests include anime, series (currently watching Mr. Robot), youtube, podcasts, some light gaming (haven't had enough time to play as much as I want unfortunately), and last but not least drinking and chilling with friends :D
About myself: - Tall (6'1" / 186 cm), broad shouldered, completely in contrast to my personality lol - Tiny bit more fat on me than I'd like (Not fat, just soft lol. Although because of the way my body is built, it doesn't look that bad) - I'm very emotional and affectionate, warning: I might cry when we watch emotional movies lol - I can be pretty active, having a ton of energy, though I have my down moments as well 😅 - Open to discussing any topic, LGBT friendly (though I'm straight myself), 420 friendly (might try it some time if I'm with the right people [will you be that person? umu])
About you / the person I'm looking for: - I definitely prefer girls, as I generally click better with them, though I'm open to that notion being changed haha - I'd love it if you're somewhere in or near the Netherlands, as I could use some physical contact / meeting up; haven't really done so since when lockdown started haha - Please be between 18 and 25 years old - I don't give a shit about looks - Be okay with me being a little eager for attention and affection, I most certainly will nerd out over all of your passions hahaha - No 2 word replies (you know what I mean; keep the conversation going :D) - Be chill, though we'll see about this in our chats!
So, just hit me up, even if you don't think we're an exact match, we might just work!
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2020.09.21 12:36 biscuit-cupcakes Homophobic family has been snooping on my electronics and mentally abusing me

Tldr:
Details:
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2020.09.21 06:30 Slow-N-Ready Our Analysis of AITA's Top 25 Posts This Week (9/13~9/19)

Each week, we collect data from the Top 25 posts in AITA this week and break it down for you! We try to be as neutral as possible in these posts, and let the numbers speak for themselves.

Judgments

NTA verdicts came in at 96% of the Top 25 posts this week.
Not the Asshole You're the Asshole
Total Posts: 25 24 (96%) 1 (4%)
("Update" posts are not included in our tally)

Who was "The Asshole" in each post?

"Sisters / SILs" was nowhere near the most common theme, and for the first time, spouses dominated the top posts.

Boyfriends / Husbands 4 Roommates 2
Wives / Girlfriends 4 Neighbors 2
Mothers / MILs 3 Brothers / BILs 1
OP's Kids 3 Karens 1
Shitty Parents 2 Self 1
Sisters / SILs 2

OP Gender Ratio


Gender Number
Female 14
Male 8
Unspecified 3
This information is only included to help contextualize what kinds of posts are more relatable or relevant to the AITA userbase, and should not be taken (or used) as criticism of one gender or another.

The most upvoted "You're the Asshole" and "Everyone Sucks Here" posts

This week, the highest "YTA" judgment was the 22nd highest post: AITA for interrupting my wife's work-from-home meeting in a panic after the baby had an explosive shit that sprayed like 5 feet across the room and decimated our laundry and floor? Asshole?
The highest "ESH" judgment was the 72nd highest post. AITA for taking the rest of my family on vacations without my oldest son because my ex never gave him permission to travel?

Interesting Post Spotlights

Starting this week, we will no longer post "Spotlights". They were initially included to point out especially ridiculous posts, but I want these Data Dumps to stay neutral. There's no way to do that while saying "Hey guys, look at THIS crazy one."
Instead, we'll simple list out the entire Top 25 post titles, and people can judge for themselves.
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Previous Weekly Data

Week of 9/06 ~ 9/12
Week of 8/30~09/05
Week of 8/23 ~ 8/29
Week of 8/16 ~ 8/22
Week of 8/9~8/15

Judgement Ratios (All Time)

Not the Asshole (NTA) You're the Asshole (YTA) Everyone Sucks Here
97.3% 2% 0.7%

Common Themes (All Time)

Sisters / Sisters-in-Law 41 Neighbors 5
Boyfriends / Husbands 22 Cousins 4
Mothers / Mothers-in-Law 20 Friends' Girlfriends 3
No Clear Antagonist / Self 14 Male Friends 3
Kids 11 Male Co-Workers 3
Friends 12 Employees 6
Brothers / Brothers-in-Law 9 OP's Kids 2
Girlfriends / Wives 14 Acquaintances 4
Shitty Parents 2 Racists 2
Uncles / Aunts 5 LGBT Individuals 1
Fathers / Fathers-in-Law 6 Ex-Girlfriends 1
"Karens" 3 Schools Teachers 2
Roommates 7 Unsorted 0
(Our "Karens" theme is specifically for situations where a woman with children is making a demand on a stranger in public. We aren't condoning the use of the word, only applying AITA's common terminology.)

Previous OP Gender Ratio (All Time)

Gender Number
Female 97
Male 39
Unspecified 19

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2020.09.21 03:55 biscuit-cupcakes Homophobic family has been snooping on my electronics and mentally abusing me

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2020.09.21 00:16 Elfelejtett Rant

CW: discussion about arophobia
So I unfortunately stumbled upon an exclu space and started reading. Basically most of the content is about how aphobia is just "people being mean online" and that made me think about my own experiences and how I personally have gotten much more shit for being aro than bi. Some examples:
I come from a really progressive country so I have been lucky enough to never get any shit for being bi. So according to their logic ("being LGBT is based on oppression") being bi wouldn't make me LGBTQ+ as I haven't faced oppression based on that? Or is it enough that some people who are like me but live in very different environments get shit for it? But then me actually personally getting shit for being aro isn't enough to make me LGBTQ+?
I don't know I'm just tired
EDIT: I'm by no means trying to say bi people aren't LGBTQ+, I'm just using their logic
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2020.09.20 19:40 biscuit-cupcakes Homophobic family has been snooping my electronics and mentally abusing me

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